I once worked with a manager who was routinely hostile and aggressive to colleagues. I asked my boss about it, and he said “oh, that’s just the way they are” and shrugged it off. Being quite young, I didn’t think much of it. I took… Don’t tolerate “that’s just the way they are”
What do you do when a team member does something ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’? Instinctively, we want to write them off and judge their character (this is called fundamental attribution bias). Sometimes our instincts are right. The misdeed was a wilful attempt to cause harm. But… Why would a reasonable, rational, decent person do this?